His baby brother (who was 10 at the time), was curious and hopeful he’d be an uncle by the time he was 12. My husband was proud and excited for his family to meet me. The first time I met the soon-to-be in-laws I remember being terrified and nervous, wanting to make a good impression. Our age at the time, our relationship with those involved, our judgment about its worth or importance and our role in the event all contribute to our memory. Their memories of that pool may not be as accurate as of the real experience, but they are more likely to remember because of the number of times they have passed it and talked about it. Each time, they talk about the times they swam in that pool.Įach time the story changes and is a little different than the first time they told it. On the way home, we pass by our neighborhood swimming pool. On occasion, I pick up my grandkids from daycare. However, telling the story many times over can help “make it stick”, even if it changes with time. The passage of time increases the likelihood that our childhood memories change or fade and become less vivid, the story morphing and sometimes finding a life of its own along the way. Childhood Memories are affected by: The passage of time. We each see things differently, based on several variables. Why is that? Experiences and the memory of the experience are seldom the same. We were all there, but we each have our own “remembrance” of the experience. One of us begins the story, but we are soon interrupted by another who doesn’t remember it quite the same way. My family loves to talk about their childhood memories. Two people can have the exact same experience, be in the same place, but have totally different memories of what happened. Or heard a bit of gossip that started as a little nugget of information and developed a life of its own? Have you ever played the game where the first person whispers a phrase to the next person and it’s passed down the line, only to end up totally distorted by the time it reaches the last person? There is a difference between “experiences” and the “memory of experiences”. So to get there, let me start by explaining a little about the process of making memories.Ī memory is our interpretation of an experience. We want them to remember us, not what we did together but how being together made them feel. You want your kids and grandkids to remember you, not only the things you did together but how being together made them feel – loved and cherished, strong and courageous, empowered and able, protected and safe. You’ve heard the saying – I’ll paraphrase here – “They will forget what you said and did, but they’ll remember how you made them feel”. Those strong, positive, lasting memories of childhood that will stick around long after you’re gone?
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Make Lasting Memoriesīut do you know how to make lasting memories? I’ve talked about ideas for activities like reading together, going places, sharing family traditions, turning moments into new family traditions, and simply spending time with family.Īs an Amazon Associate and a participant in other affiliate programs, Passing Down the Love earns a small commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you. Memories that they will carry with them for a lifetime. The goal of Passing Down the Love is to encourage you to make lasting childhood memories with your kids and grandkids. How to make strong, lasting memories that stick around Here are ways you can make lasting childhood memories that stick around.
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